The Adoption Call Has Come!

We finally got “the adoption call” we have waited so long for. We were matched with a birthmother through our agency. We met with the birthmother and her sister last week. It was a great meeting. We came away thrilled and terrified.

The baby girl is not due until the middle of May. But already we have received news the birthmother was sent to the hospital after one of her doctor appointments. She will remain there until her doctor determines a c-section is necessary. Here is a bit of an update we got from our agency:

“She reported that the they were concerned that perhaps the baby was not growing enough or getting enough oxygen; blood may not be flowing through umbilical cord like it should be— that there are pauses, which means that the baby is not getting enough nutrients. The baby is moving around which is good. The doctors want to keep her in as long as possible and ‘buy time’ for baby to grow more.  She said it has to do with her high blood pressure.”

Her doctor is out of town until the 18^th. That would be the earliest they might schedule a c-section, though we are all hoping it will be at least several more weeks. The birthmother is currently 29 weeks pregnant.

This week we also found out my grandma is not doing well. She is no longer eating or drinking, and her body is shutting down. The doctors said it would only be a few days. Although she is not eating or drinking, they have given her a pain patch to make her comfortable. She is 94 and has lived a full life. At this point, we are planning on going to the funeral in South Dakota to be with family since she is already unresponsive.

Joa left this morning for a business trip for three days. He started to get sick last night. He gets home late Friday night and then we more than likely will be heading to South Dakota Saturday morning. It’s about a 17 hour drive.

All these events have overwhelmed us a bit. We are thrilled about the possible adoption, but nothing is a guarantee until the papers are signed. They can’t be signed until 48 hours after birth according to Texas law. The birthfather knows about the pregnancy but is uninterested and out of the picture. The birthmother is determined to choose the plan of adoption for baby girl, but half of her family is supportive and half of her family isn’t.

Prayer requests:

-Pray for us, that we choose to walk in faith not anxiety. We know this could end differently than we want it to, just like with Ethan. Pray that we would choose to trust God’s sovereignty and goodness.

-Pray that we trust God’s timing and trust Him to work out all the details we can’t. I think we were envisioning the worst case scenario yesterday, that we would be driving to or in South Dakota when the agency would let us know we need to come to San Antonio (where the birthmother lives) for baby girl’s birth. There is a 22 hour drive time between South Dakota and San Antonio!  

-Pray for birthmother (Irene) and baby girl’s health. Pray for wisdom for the doctor to make accurate and timely decisions about Irene and baby girl. Pray baby girl is able to remain and grow with adequate nutrients in the womb for several more weeks.

-Pray for my grandma, for peace and no pain.

-Pray for our time together as a family, that God would continue the redemption and restoration He wants. For a time of celebrating my grandma’s life as well as grieving her loss.

-Pray for safety in driving to South Dakota soon for the funeral.

-Pray for God’s provision as we may have a few surprise expenses we had not planned on if baby girl comes early and stays in the hospital for a few weeks.

I will be posting any updates or changes here on my blog and posting a link on facebook. If you do want to get an email update, we would be happy to send it. Just let us know!

Thanks for your support in this LONG adoption journey. We are grateful and blessed to have your care and prayers.

Love

Connie (and Joa)